The Breaking Point is a podcast in which regular people tell the stories of their most significant breakups and heartbreaks.
I believe breakups are pivotal moments in our lives that we can all relate to. They shape and define us in ways we don’t always fully comprehend. They force us to mutate. When they occur, dealing with them, and their consequences, is one of the most difficult experiences in life. Especially in a society that pushes us to be “a winner”; tough, unbreakable, successful. Most of the time emotions are considered as weaknesses.
The Breaking Point reflects on those emotions and the impact breakups have on our lives. This is an opportunity to stop and take a deeper look into the way we absorb and assimilate them. For the listener and for the person who shares the story.
The Breaking Point is an homage to the universality of human beings’ vulnerability when it comes to love. That absolute vulnerability we experience when we let ourselves fall in love is a wonderful feeling. What we feel when we hurt, when it’s all over, is also purely and genuinely human. That condition is universal – whether we’re rich, poor, old or young – we can all relate to it.
The ambition of this podcast is to connect people. To create empathy and remind us that whoever we are, wherever we are, we are not that different when it comes to love and pain. We don’t always succeed, but we all try our best.
Breakups and disconnection
The ability to feel connected gives purpose and meaning to our lives. Disconnection makes us feel lost, estranged and lonely. On top of the primal pain we experience from feelings such as betrayal, loss, regret, and longing, we then have to deal with waves of questions that shake our perception of who we actually are. They push us to re-evaluate our capacity to make the right choices in life or even our worthiness of love in general.
Those questions can lead to a much broader fear of not being capable of connecting again. The way we deal with this dilemma totally redefines who we are. This is why breakups are so interesting to process. We can either push that anxiety down which can eventually turn into crippling shame, or we try to embrace it which can be the first step to transforming it into something useful.
“No one wants to talk about shame and vulnerability. But the less you talk about it, the more you have it. We can’t selectively numb emotions. We can’t just tune out what we don’t want to feel without impacting the rest of our emotions.”
American social researcher Brené Brown
Numbing fear, shame and vulnerability after a tough breakup will end up also numbing joy, gratitude and love in general. I believe that the key to avoiding that numbing process is talking. The Breaking Point offers the opportunity to share with others those feelings of which we should not be ashamed.
Breakups allow us to dive into the pain every human being goes through when he/she disconnects. It hurts, it’s terribly difficult. Yet they also punch us back to the drawing board and offer a new starting point. What we do with those experiences determines how we transform our lives.